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How Do I Communicate With My Ex?

How Do I Communicate With My Ex?

It’s not always easy to communicate with your ex-spouse, especially when children are involved.

According to Dr. Phil, “Dealing with an ex when you have children together can be difficult, especially when negative emotions are involved or you feel a desire to never see your former spouse again.”

However, being a parent means putting your child’s best interests before your own. It is important to find a way to have a nice, comfortable relationship with your ex as co-parents.

Do you still argue with your ex whenever you see one another? Before you decide to give up trying, remember why you must be civilized with each other – your children. They deserve to be in a peaceful environment regardless of how you feel towards your ex.

The following are some helpful strategies to pave the way to more open communication:

  • Keep your word – when it comes to promises made to your children or your ex-spouse
  • Be considerate of other people’s feelings – inform your ex of school functions, change in schedules, etc.
  • Be respectful and civil to your ex, especially in front of your children – set an example of mature adults, don’t overreact
  • Always listen to others speak – don’t interrupt
  • Opinions – ask for your ex-‘s input on a subject – this can certainly jump-start positive communications between you
  • Never be afraid to say, “I’m sorry” – make an effort to genuinely apologize for the hurt and pain your actions caused
  • Visualize a positive future – focus on creating a positive future for you and your children – there is no room for negativity

Co-parenting amicably can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents. Putting aside relationship issues can be difficult, but it can be done. It is possible to have a cordial relationship with your ex for the sake of your children.

If you are currently going through a divorce, contact Inland Empire Divorce & Family Law Attorneys family attorneys in Cucamonga to provide you with relentless and compassionate representation. We understand how important it is for both parents to have a relationship with their children, and we will work diligently to obtain the best possible outcome in your case.